How Not To Be !! Thursday Gists With IyanulOluwa Ololade
How Not To Be !! Thursday Gists With IyanulOluwa Ololade.
Have you seen posts or books on, how to do a thing or how to become or achieve a thing? Not going through any of those lanes, I present, how not to be yourself.
Being oneself happens to be the most important thing to do whenever and wherever because we cannot afford to pick up another man’s identity. Pretense and deception are highly discouraged and prohibited if truly one wants to be uniquely relevant.
Some of the tips to being oneself include not pleasing others above oneself, not minding what people will say because they will always have something to say, self-love, standing up for oneself and avoiding any form of clash.
Notwithstanding, we have concentrated too much on ourselves that we tend to lose touch with humanity and have unconsciously become selfish. We tend to settle for less and even position ourselves for complacency just because we want to be ourselves. Just because we want to explore ourselves and gain a niche for ourselves, we compromise a whole lot of morally upright standards and boundaries. We claim ownership of ourselves when in the real sense we cannot be us if we do not make positive impacts and stand out of the crowd regardless of what the society preaches.
Gil Eagles stated, “if you want to be successful, you must be willing to be uncomfortable.” Life does not reward those who refuse challenges and the greatest mistake a person can make is to be afraid of making one.
There are times when we need not to see ourselves nor prove any right. There are times we need to feign being foolish in order to win a course; have you not heard of “he that will catch a monkey must behave like a monkey?” There are times we also need to work on ourselves and improve on that aspects that a lot of people have passed complaints on. Not all comments should be ignored. I’ve heard people say, “it’s my kind of person or it’s just my weakness.” Who says you can’t work on yourself and become a better ‘YOU’?
Being oneself is cool but the more we indulge ourselves, the more humanity deteriorates. The place of balance in ‘not being’ oneself is to make sure no one’s right or life is trampled upon. I shall allude to a Yoruba adage, “M’oja m’osa la n m’akinkanju.”
